For Moms!

Hey guys first official entry. Let’s just say today was emotional. Got some much needed advice from a friend about some marriatial crap. I spent money we didn’t have, luckily I won the money back but it took some much needed tough love to remind me that it didn’t matter that I was able to get the money back the point was I took it and didn’t say anything. My friend pointed out had I not won it back would we have been able to eat or pay the mortgage, like I said much needed tough love. Something I thought I was gonna have to sell my house and get divorced over and all it took was one good friend to point out the other side, what could have happened. Sometimes we get so caught up in the outcome we don’t think of what damage we could have caused. All I could see was that I won the money back and gave it back. BUT what if I hadn’t? we are a one income family right now and omg, that money was more than a third of our mortgage. So I apologized correctly to my husband, explaining I understood why he was so upset because one I didn’t ask and two what if… well thank you Ashlee for being the much needed real one today and opening my eyes to his side. Let me just say if your circle can’t be really real with you, you prob need a new circle. thank God mine can and does. Also had one of those epic little talks with my step daughter who is 13, thinks she’s 22, and acts 5, but 2 years ago she told me she wanted to go by they/them and she didn’t know if she liked girls or boys. Well lucky me because I had already had this conversation with my older teen two years prior. I validated her feelings asked her what brought this on and that me and her father would love her no matter what, and I told her (at 11) she didn’t really know much of anything yet. Well today she told me I was right about that conversation we had when she was 11, she wanted to start doing her hair, dressing girlier, and lose weight. Listen this kid is not fat not by a long shot, but I endulged. I told her she was more than welcome to join me and my eldest at the gym every morning as soon as school was over every morning. My step daughter doesn’t talk to me much, unless no one is home or she needs to tell a women. Unfortunately her biological mom died when she was 2 and was raised until 10 by her maternal grandfather never having a “mom” around. I know the teen years are hard, but small wins like this make it worth it. Then of course my oldest got home and needed lashes and razors and a new candle, because we aren’t broke enough. But I have one biological daughter and one step daughter (who lost her mom way too young) so how can I even say no to either one? seriously EMOTIONAL day. But I got through it they got through my marriage survived and the dogs are sleeping on the floor bc they’re so hot from playing outside. Even after I cried all morning had a rare heart to heart with my youngest and spent money we can’t really afford oh and almost ruined my marriage, I’m getting ready to cook some tacos, I make the best tacos in a bag, everything is right in the world at least for now, well see what happens next week. And tomorrow is chore day, that should be fun. I could probably write a whole page on how chore day got started in our house and how both kids try to get out of it every week. After a few terrible chore days tomorrow we’re teaching our TEENAGERS how to clean properly, because somehow they don’t know. Did I mention I also own a cleaning business? how do these kids not know how to clean??? Anyway here’s my quick Friday taco recipe any kid will love!

2 lbs of ground beef, Three packs of Goya Sazon (you know the yellow packs), shredded cheese, queso, and two big bags of red Doritos. cook the beef, mix in the sazon right at the end, because otherwise you’ll loose your mind trying to figure out if the beef is cooked or its the seasoning, put Doritos in sandwich bags and crush them up, add beef to the bag, add shredded cheese or queso or both and BAM! My kids love these! they’re cheap and easy!

Peace out till next Friday!